Your Relationship Check-In
How do you show up for yourself and others?
Our relationships—with partners, friends, family, coworkers, and even ourselves—can be fulfilling, challenging, or somewhere in between.
You don't need to be in a bad relationship—or even be in a romantic relationship—to have relationship patterns worth understanding.
Maybe you're the person everyone relies on, but asking for help yourself feels uncomfortable. Maybe you know exactly what you need but struggle to say it when someone might be disappointed. Or maybe conflict leaves you shutting down, overthinking, or trying to make everything okay as quickly as possible.
The way we relate to other people—and to ourselves—can reveal patterns we don't always recognize while we're living them.
This free 3–5 minute check-in can help you notice some of yours.
You'll explore four areas
Relationship With Self
How well do you notice and make room for your own needs?
Conflict & Repair
What happens when a relationship becomes uncomfortable?
Connection, Support & Vulnerability
Can you let yourself be known, supported, and connected to others?
Boundaries & Responsibility
Can you care deeply about other people without feeling responsible for keeping them okay?
20 questions · 3–5 minutes · Personalized results
Understand your patterns.
Choose how you want to show up.
This isn't about whether you're “good” or “bad” at relationships. It's about understanding yourself well enough to have more choice in how you connect with others.
You may already set great boundaries at work but find yourself saying yes to family when you really want to say no. You might be the friend everyone turns to while quietly wishing it felt easier to ask for support yourself. Or maybe you know what you need until conflict happens—and suddenly it's much harder to say it.
The more clearly you can recognize your patterns, the easier it becomes to decide which ones are working for you and which ones you want to change.
Your results will help you identify where you already have a strong foundation, where there may be room to strengthen, and what might be worth a closer look.
How do you show up for yourself and others?
We all develop patterns in the way we care for ourselves, handle conflict, ask for support, and respond to other people's needs.
This short check-in can help you notice some of yours.
There are no right or wrong answers. Choose the response that feels most true for you, and try not to overthink it.
Your answers are private. Your quiz responses and results are not submitted to or stored by Tella Psychology. If you'd like to keep your results, take a screenshot or write them down at the end.
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Your results
Relationships are rarely all-or-nothing. You may feel confident in one area while noticing patterns you'd like to strengthen in another. Here's a look at how you responded across four areas.
Curious about the patterns behind your results?
Relationship-focused therapy isn't only for couples or relationships in crisis. Individual therapy can help you understand the patterns you bring into relationships, where they came from, and how to respond differently.
Dr. Tamaki Silver works with adults who want to better understand themselves, strengthen their relationships, and change patterns that no longer serve them.
Relationship-Focused Therapy with Dr. Silver
You Don't Have to Figure This Out on Your Own.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to tell us a little about what's happening and find out whether relationship-focused therapy at Tella Psychology is the right fit for you.
Dr. Tamaki Silver, PsyD | Adults & Couples
Dr. Silver specializes in relationships and attachment, anxiety, and life transitions. She works with adults who want to understand and change patterns in romantic relationships, friendships, and family relationships—including difficulties with boundaries, vulnerability, communication, and feeling connected while maintaining a strong sense of self.
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