Your Relationship Check-In
How do you show up for yourself and others?
You don't need to be in a bad relationship—or even be in a relationship—to have relationship patterns worth understanding.
Maybe you're the person everyone relies on, but asking for help yourself feels uncomfortable. Maybe you know exactly what you need but struggle to say it when someone might be disappointed. Or maybe conflict leaves you shutting down, overthinking, or trying to make everything okay as quickly as possible.
The way we relate to other people—and to ourselves—can reveal patterns we don't always recognize while we're living them.
This free 3–5 minute check-in can help you notice yours.
You'll explore four areas
Relationship With Self
How well do you notice and make room for your own needs?
Conflict & Repair
What happens when a relationship becomes uncomfortable?
Connection, Support & Vulnerability
Can you let yourself be known, supported, and connected to others?
Boundaries & Responsibility
Can you care deeply about other people without feeling responsible for keeping them okay?
20 questions · 3–5 minutes · Personalized results
This isn't about whether you're "good" or "bad" at relationships.
Most of us don't have one relationship style that shows up everywhere.
You might set great boundaries at work but have a hard time saying no to your family. You might be incredibly supportive of friends but struggle to let anyone support you. You might know what you need but find it much harder to communicate those needs when there's conflict.
Your results will show you where you already have a strong foundation and where there may be room to strengthen or something worth a closer look.
How do you show up for yourself and others?
We all develop patterns in the way we care for ourselves, handle conflict, ask for support, and respond to other people's needs.
This short check-in can help you notice some of yours.
There are no right or wrong answers. Choose the response that feels most true for you, and try not to overthink it.
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Your results
Relationships are rarely all-or-nothing. You may feel confident in one area while noticing patterns you'd like to strengthen in another. Here's a look at how you responded across four areas.
Curious about the patterns behind your results?
Relationship-focused therapy isn't only for couples or relationships in crisis. Individual therapy can help you understand the patterns you bring into relationships, where they came from, and how to respond differently.
Dr. Tamaki Silver works with adults who want to better understand themselves, strengthen their relationships, and change patterns that no longer serve them.
Relationship-Focused Therapy with Dr. Silver
You Don't Have to Figure This Out on Your Own.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to tell us a little about what's happening and find out whether relationship-focused therapy at Tella Psychology is the right fit for you.
Dr. Tamaki Silver, PsyD | Adults & Couples
Dr. Silver specializes in relationships and attachment, anxiety, and life transitions. She works with adults who want to understand and change patterns in romantic relationships, friendships, and family relationships—including difficulties with boundaries, vulnerability, communication, and feeling connected while maintaining a strong sense of self.
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